Cutting Emotional Cords

"Cutting cords doesn't mean, "I don't love you or care about you anymore." Cord cutting doesn't necessarily lead to break-ups or abandoned relationships. It simply means that you are releasing the dysfunctional parts of your relationships. Remember, fear is the opposite of love, and etheric cords (and all attachments) are created from fear”. Doreen Virtue

If you have decided to move on from a relationship and you find it particularly difficult to “let-go” it may be that there are emotional cords of attachment holding you back. 

An emotional tie between two people causes patterns from the past to constantly be relived. These ties are an open channel between you and another person through which energy and emotions flow without your conscious knowledge. On a very subtle level, you are literally “attached” to each other. 

Emotional cords are every bit as real as if you were holding one end of the cord and the other person in the relationship holding the other end. The only difference is that you can't see this cord but you can surely feel it. It can hold you back from moving forward in your journey and embracing your wholeness as a beautiful spiritual being.

If you are in a relationship that is draining you, holding you back or taking away your power, you most likely have emotional cords between you. Can you cut them? Yes, but care should be taken with a conscious awareness and respect for the fact that this is a process.

The first thing you need to do is to take a break from being around this person, given the intensity of energy that is flowing between you. Sometimes these cords reach across time and space, so we have to work with them at all levels. 

When we give our power away to other people, our relationship with ourself is dysfunctional and we allow cords of energy to tie us to those people. You can cut the cord, but first you must resolve the underlying reason why you corded to this person in the first place, otherwise, the cord will continue to come back. 

It is necessary to have some ties in every relationship, but it is vital to see the difference between a beneficial and destructive tie. Every day we exchange energy with friends, partners, parents, children, siblings, friends, co-workers, and acquaintances. Sometimes we may feel hurt, misunderstood, betrayed, judged, or insulted. Many times we are not aware of how much energy we give to these experiences which could ignite emotions such as fear, anger, or resentment. If we do not resolve and forgive these moments, we continually give our energy to these incidents and keep negative patterns  alive.

Are you unable to determine if you are energetically and/or emotionally tied to a person or situation? Take a moment to think of the person involved ~ do you feel an emotion rise up? Take note of what emotions you feel. Also how you feel after being around this person. Are you drained, are you feeling anger or just feeling off but can't put your finger on why? This shows that some of your energy is still invested in this relationship. 

Removing negative energies leaves us space for new harmonious energies to enter. When the energetic tie is cut, you will feel a sense of freedom or having a heavy burden removed. You may feel the effects physically, energetically, or emotionally.

Take your focus off the negative connections in your life and concentrate on the positive ones. By learning to recognize the healthy, nurturing connections in your life, it will become easier to identify unhealthy or depleting ones. The more you focus on the positive connections in your life, the more of these connections you will attract. By focusing on the positive, you may find some of the negative ties in your relationships will disintegrate by themselves.


Letting go doesn't mean that you don't care about someone anymore. It's just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself ... Deborah Reber

Letting go means coming to the realization that some people are part of your history, but not part of your destiny ... Steve Maraboli

Blessings and light ...