Growth and Moving On

Moving on after a loss or a hurt can be painful and difficult. It is often so easy to allow yourself to fall into the role of victim, letting our ego tell us, "you have been wronged ~ you were and are right ~ you should speak up and tell your side of the story ~ you don't deserve this treatment".

So how do we move on from this place of pain?

Realize that ego, that part of each one of you is working against you. It is nothing more than a coping mechanism that you developed over time as you re-learned to conform through societal, educational and parental programming. You were designed and created in perfect beauty, a pure being with unconditional love for yourself and everyone else.

But you ask, can I manage day to day without my ego? There is nothing you cannot achieve with belief in yourself and your abilities.

First, realize that what you must let go of is most likely necessary for your growth. Sometimes we hold on to something or someone as a crutch which is effectively preventing us from realizing our true potential.

A recent situation has made me see that in order to move on I must let go of limiting beliefs. And in letting go, I can fly free, no longer flying as a passenger but piloting my own plane. Am I ready to do this? I believe yes, with a little tenderness for myself as I cope with the loss, then love for myself as I venture out on my own and then patience as I learn to fly solo.

Deepak Chopra said, "If you want to reach a state of bliss, then go beyond your ego and the internal dialogue. Make a decision to relinquish the need to control, the need to be approved, and the need to judge. Those are the three things the ego is doing all the time. It's very important to be aware of them every time they come up."

The beauty of staying in the present is that the past does not hold you in its grip any longer. Whatever is in the past has served to bring you here, to strengthen your resolve, to make you the magnificent being that you are now.

When presented with challenges, step back, BREATHE and then choose how you wish to react. There are only are five things in this life you can control. You can control your thoughts, you can control your words, you can control your actions, you can control your emotions and you can control your reactions. Everything else is beyond your control. 

Only you can choose how you will react, and sometimes the appropriate response is to not react at all.

Blessings and light ....